My husband has noticed the small amount of weight I have loss - 9 pounds.  Now he seems to be having a problem.  He is overweight and feels that I don't pay attention to him.  Okay, he is right there but we have our adult kids and their baby in our home.  I work part time and am trying to find full time work.  WE have situations that are on going.  SORRY, OFF TRACK.  He wants to know why I am losing weight, who am I losing it for and who am I going to go out with .... Anyone got advise ... I am stressed and upset and spent most of the night crying. I am determined to lose 40 pounds but I am questioning why. 

You can tell your husband that you are losing pounds for your own health.  You don't want to end up a diabetic.  Invite him to go walking with you it might befit him also.  D not get discouraged, you are on the right track.

Mario

I agree. You are doing this for yourself. Your husband needs to be a little more supportive. Maybe involving him more in your weight loss journey will inspire him to join you. It sounds like he might be jealous and afraid he is going to lose you. I think you should just be honest, maybe if you make a list of all the reasons you want to lose weight and let him read it, he might be more supportive. I did the same thing with my husband, I made out my list and he thought it was so cute, that is what he said. He has been very supportive ever since. I didn't intend on him reading my list, he found it and read it. I was a little embarrassed when I saw he was reading it, but I think it really made him understand how horrible I feel about myself. Well best of luck to you. Let us know how everything goes.

there comes time when you have to be accountable for yourself.....its just your husbands insecurity with himsef...i have a sister n law who has a husband the same way....except she gives into him al the time because of him being jealous or insecure.....and believe me she is miserable.......so do it for you....make this your time for yourself...i agree with the others invite him along if not you can go back to how it is or do something for yourself....good luck

Hi Barbie,

It sounds like your husband may be alittle insecure.  When he asks who you are doing this for, tell him you are doing for yourself first and foremost, but also for him, your kids and your grandkids...so you can be around to watch them grow up.  Maybe include him...get his opinion on new meals or ask him to go shopping with you when you are buying a size smaller dress and let him help pick it out.   Someone else mentioned making the list...I think that is an excellent idea...it makes your thoughts, ideas and goals a little more concrete and real to put them on paper.

Hang in there and don't get discouraged.  We are all here for you.  By the way...congrats on the 9 pounds..way to go!!

Take care!

Tammy

Sounds like you already have alot of stress in your house.  No matter how much a family has it together it is hard to have grown kids and their children living in your home.  Men can get just as insecure as women can, and when we are insecure we look to our spouse for support....be thankful he was able to share his feeling with you instead of hiding them inside and letting the brew.

 Sounds like the two of you need some time together, take him out on a date.  Let him know you WANT to be on HIS arm, no one elses.  Remind him that you are losing weight for your health, which will allow you to be around longer for HIM and your family.  Ask him if he would like to join you, tell him you will support him and help him every step of the way.  Maybe he does not want to go on the Alli pill, but would be willing to go on the meal plans to match yours.  You can be a team, he will certainly benefit, and so would your relationship.

 Take him to a movie, or maybe to a late evening picnic in the park, pack a special dinner that fits into your plan.  Leave notes for him to find during the day. 

Remember times when you have felt insecure and look for opportunities to build him up, just as you would want him to do to you.

They are a different creature, and yet in some ways very much like us.

barbie,

The first thing you learn when trying to improve yourself is YOU have to be the reason you are changing anything or it won't work!!!

As for your husband if that is the way he is thinking then nothing you do or say will convince him otherwise just tell him it is for yourself and if he doesn't like that answer just smile to yourself and know you must be looking better and keep going. If a man is going to be jealous there is nothing to do but ignore it!!! Keep telling yourself YOU are worth it and stay strong. Most people i tell that i have lost 10 pounds in three weeks start giving me negativity about diet pills and all of this bull. this is the first diet that i have ever been on that i have continuously lost and not gained anything back the next day. it has somehow improved my ability to actually eat less and not gain weight!!! I have tried "almost" every diet there is and have never lost more than 3 pounds in two or three months until now.  Keep up the good work!