For years i've struggled with my weight, like al ot of you. I've tried every "diet" under the sun, and finally alli worked for me. went from 196 to 135 since June 16th.  I started on my 29th bday and decided i didn't want to turn 30 and be fat at the same time. So here i am, today is my weigh in day, and guess what?? 135!! I made it. I look back and think, "that's it? that's all I had to do, eat right, exercise??" that was not so bad! i don't knwo why it took me so long to really get it through my thick skull that this was something I could accomplish! I feel like I look good. I wear a size 6 now, when i used to wear an 18. 

However, now that i'm here, at my goal of 135, I don't feel done. I feel that maybe 10 more pounds would be even better. but am i overdoing it?? I will still be a healthy weight.  But i'm afriad that even after these next 10 pounds, it still won't be enough. i don't want to get really skinny. I just want to be healthy and feel good, which i do right now, so why do i  feel like I shouldn't be done yet? Where is my mind??

Any advice??anyone??

First, we need to know how tall you are.  You didn't say. 135 pounds is much different on someone who's 5'11" vs. someone who's 5'2"...

I am only 5'3, so I can be healthy from 112 to 135, but that's not my worry...my worry is why I feel, even though i made it to my goal, and I know I am looking good and thin, that it's not enough. I think it's more pyscological than anything.

Wanting to be in the middle or closer to the middle of the healthy range is not at all an unhealthy goal. While my "big goal" is 174 which is the top of the healthy range for my height (5'10" male, age 44), I really would prefer to be in the middle of the healthy range, which is 165 lbs.

As long as you are working to get yourself into a healthy weight and body composition, I don't think it's anyone's business to tell you you are wrong or right.

Best of success to you in continuing to meet your fat loss goals,

Jim

Hi--looking at this from a psychological point of view, you may just be feeling let down because you expected weight loss to change your life or self view more than it has.  I am very close to my goal and feel similarly--maybe I should lose more...I don't know what the exact cure for that is, but for me it has helped to take time to take care of myself in other ways, like getting my hair done, pedicure and making a plan to be healthy and maintain the weight loss.  Good luck.

ready2bthin:

For years i've struggled with my weight, like al ot of you. I've tried every "diet" under the sun, and finally alli worked for me. went from 196 to 135 since June 16th.  I started on my 29th bday and decided i didn't want to turn 30 and be fat at the same time. So here i am, today is my weigh in day, and guess what?? 135!! I made it. I look back and think, "that's it? that's all I had to do, eat right, exercise??" that was not so bad! i don't knwo why it took me so long to really get it through my thick skull that this was something I could accomplish! I feel like I look good. I wear a size 6 now, when i used to wear an 18. 

However, now that i'm here, at my goal of 135, I don't feel done. I feel that maybe 10 more pounds would be even better. but am i overdoing it?? I will still be a healthy weight.  But i'm afriad that even after these next 10 pounds, it still won't be enough. i don't want to get really skinny. I just want to be healthy and feel good, which i do right now, so why do i  feel like I shouldn't be done yet? Where is my mind??

Any advice??anyone??

WOW!!! GOOD FOR YOU!

I AM ALSO 5'3 AND STARTED JULY 2ND AND HAVE LOST 15LBS. ALTHOUGH THRILLED, I JUST CANT SEEM TO BREAK THE 140 MARK AND REACH MY GOAL OF 130. AM I NOT BE STRICT ENOUGH WITH MY EATING? THE ONLY THING WITH THAT IS I DONT WANT TO COMPLETELY DEPRIVE MYSELF AND FIND MYSELF EATING IT LATER AND JUST PUTTING WEIGHT BACK ON.  

HOW DID YOU DO IT? DID YOU FOLLOW THE ALLI MEAL PLAN? WHAT WAS YOUR EXERCISE FOR A WEEK CONSISTANTING OF? WHAT CAL/FAT TARGETS ARE YOU AT?

IM JUST TRYING TO FIGURE IT OUT SO I CAN GET THOSE LAST LBS OFF.

THANKS FOR ANYTHING YOU MIGHT BE ABLE TO PROVIDE.

AGAIN....CONGRATS ON YOUR SUCCESS!!!!!

Hi!  I'm just starting alli (2 weeks now) But I wanted to put my 2 cents in. 

I think you need to be 'thin' for awhile before your can really 'feel' thin.  Does that make sense? This is new for you.  Maybe feeling like "it's the end of the journey, what now?"  If you want to lose a little more, go for it!  But during this last 10 pounds or so, reward yourself for a job well done!  You reached your goal.  Setting a new goal is great.  After you're down a few more pounds, try to maintain for awhile and see how you feel. 

OK, just my thoughts.  and...CoNgRaTuLaTiOnS on  your weight loss, that's amazing! 

 ~Holly

Years ago, when I was in the military, I had a period of time (couple of years) in my life where I had lost a lot of weight and was in excellent physical condition.  I distinctly remember after getting married to my wonderful, beautiful wife, that I started slowing down on my exercise and also started gaining a few pounds and had to increase my pants waist size to a 34-waist.  I felt very fat and looked at a picture of myself and thought "man, you really are getting fat again".  Then about 15 years went by and unfortunately, I continued gaining weight until I got up to almost 300 pounds and a size 50 pants waist-size.  Boy, when I looked at that same picture of me in my 34-waist pants, I could only DREAM of being that small again.  I remember laughing a few months ago while looking at that picture and telling my wife that "wow, I wish I could be that fat again.   Well, now I am finally moving back toward those 34-size pants again (still have a ways to go; now down to a 42 waist) and I will hopefully not experience the same feelings of  not being happy where I am at.  That is why this time, I set a goal of having a 34-waist and a size Large shirt again.  I plan on starting to gradually increase my caloric intake as soon as I get there to try and stop the weight loss.  I don't know if it will work or not, but that's my plan.  I also am keeping a pair of my 50-waist pants and some of my pictures of me at 294 pounds to keep reminding me just how far I have come.  Betty posted something recently about psychological issues surrounding the way we look at ourselves and maybe she can give you some more information on that.  Congratulations on reaching your goal, so just step back for a moment and relish that achievement.  We are often our own worst critics, so make sure when you look in the mirror, that you don't be overly critical of what you see.  Good luck......

Charlie

Hi Ready3bthin,

I am with you 100%. When your weight has been an issue it's hard to have it not be one. When you're overweight you have a constant reminder that you are. You may not be doing anything to lose weight, but you are aware that you need to. It's kind of like there is a part of your mind that is your dieting center. This part is either following a diet or thinking about following a diet. Once you reach your goal weight that part of your mind doesn't know what to think about. I know how great it feels to be at this weight, but you feel this loss of something, right? It's kind of like "now what?"  This thought and feeling is where you are at right now.

I think that it's best for you to stop and enjoy the weight that you are at. You need to get your mind caught up with your body. Use this time to get used to your new way of eating and exercising. Make maintaining your weight for a minimum of two months your goal. Once you get passed that you can decide if you would like to lose more.

You may also benefit from finding a new goal to focus on. Your weight has taken up a lot of time and energy. Now that weight loss isn't a goal, what can you devote that time and energy to? There may be an activity, sport, hobby, or class that interests you. Think about this one and let me know what you come up with.

Congratulations on your success!

Betty Kovacs, MS, RD