So my bf of the past year and ex-roommate just broke up with me, and even though I feel completely nauseous right now I know I'll be looking for ben and jerry eventually..
He was the reason I decided to start the alli program.  I'm going to keep going with it so that he'll regret it even more if he ever does.. but still. I just don't know what to do.

-Evie 

Oh Evie, I've been there, done that, have the scale to prove it. I'm SUCH a stress eater. But what I'm learning to do now is everytime I feel streesed out and like reaching for B&J's, I go for a nice long walk (and take a bottle of water with me). I walk and stress and walk until I don't feel like binging anymore.

Maybe he was the reason you started Alli, girly, but you're the reason to keep going. You deserve to be healthy and fit! So, my best advice? Go for a walk? And if you still feel like stress eating...go for another. You can do this!!!

Hi Evie,

One guarantee that you have right now is that nothing stays the same. Life is all about changes and this happens to be a very painful one that you are experiencing. I have seen enough breakups to know that many of them don't last forever. When two people are meant to be together they will be and when they aren't you will eventually understand the reasons why.

I think that now is a good time for you to take care of you. You need to decide what weight you would be comfortable at and what makes you happy. I consider times like this to be growing pains. This too shall pass and things won't be so devastating once they do. There is nothing wrong with reaching out for professional help to get through tough times.

Let me know if there is anything that I can do,

Betty Kovacs, MS, RD

 Big thanks to both of you - I'm slowly coming to that realization and am getting to the place where I'm happy just living for myself at this point.

I never thought of them as "growing pains" before - that's a great point! The relationship was definitely having trouble maturing and so it will be good to step back and remember that we're adults and to sort out who we are individually.

I made it back to the gym yesterday after a 6 day break, so that was nice. :) I'm feeling a lot better and I'm still losing so that's definitely helping keep me motivated!

Thanks again, your support is invaluable!
-Ev

Hi Ev,

The best thing to do is to take care of you. You don't want to get him back over guilt because you are falling apart and there is no need to chase after someone who isn't ready to be with you. The great part about going through the growing pains is that you come out a little stronger than you were before. I know many people who are out there dating and getting frustrated at not meeting "the one." I decided that a good way to keep your spirits up is to imagine that you have a set number of people that you have to date and growing pains to go through in order to meet that person. This means that each date that doesn't work out brings you one step closer to the one that will. It's kind of like having to meet your quota :o) Hey, you need to add some humor to relationships.

Congratulations on your success,

Betty Kovacs, MS, RD