I wanted to thank EVERYONE for your thoughts and caring my family has gone through.  My angel is now being cared for by my mom, dad and Beth's dad - so he's in good hands :)

Buzz ... once the bank figures out where they placed your letter, you'll be hearing more from me!  (esp a thank you from the kids)

Our (my) lives HAVE to get back on track .. "I" have to get back on track - so folks ... I"M BACKKKKKKKKKKK :)

Sher

 

Welcome back! You have wonderful spirit and determination that is an inspiration to EVERYONE on the boards. Betty told us (the moderators) about your loss, and I was traveling at the time. Please accept my belated condolences to you and your family. Pat Baird, MA, RD, registered dietitian

OMG Sher - while I was busy grading papers, your little Harley took his final breath.  I am sooo sorry and my prayers go out to you and your family. 

Love,  Ann

Some of my "old cronies" here know what me/myfamily has been going through the last few months.

I woke up at some ungodly house this morning realizing it's been a month today .. no wonder Beth (my daughter-in-law) had a break down yesterday (sigh).

If you'd all say an extra little prayer tonight for my kids - I sure would appeciate it.  You've all been such a close family to me, I appreciate you more than you'll ever know.

Sher

 

Hi Sher -

Believe me, the prayers have been ongoing for you and your family.  I will be saying an extra special one this evening for all of you.

Take Care,

Bobbi

Hi Sher,

The grieving process can take up to sixteen months to fully work its course. Each holiday and anniversary the first year without your little loved one can trigger memories of what you lost. I knew that this could happen and have continued to pray for you and your family. I am so happy to see that you are still sharing and reaching out on here. We are all here to help in any way that we can so please keep reaching out. Time will work its magic for all of you.

You are all in my thoughts and prayers,

Betty Kovacs, MS, RD

BettyKovacs:

Hi Everyone,

Here is the site about Harley http://www.premierwebcreations.com/harley.

Betty Kovacs, MS, RD

Our Sunday afternoon is going to be driving up to Akron Children's Hospital and attending a Memorial Service that they are having.  I don't know if this is for the kids lost in '07' or the ones lost in the last quarter of '07' - either way, we will be there at 3pm.

The kids (my son and daughter-in-law) were only allowed to invite 7 people, first ones on her list were her grandmother/grandfather (they raised her and like us - have been in the babies lives since day one), myself and my husband and my ex.  Then came the difficult decisions - my oldest son and his wife started whinning about not being "invited".  Now mind you - here are two people (a sibling of my son's) who NEVER saw the baby.  My daughter-in-law never saw Harley until she brought her own daughter over one night in October for trck-or-treat.  My son NEVER saw Harley until the day of his funderal - and yet they are whining about not being able to go to the Memorial Service.  Again - my ex-mother-in-law is also whining .. she also only saw Harley possibly 3 times ... where as my daughter would babysit Harley & Celia and be over here to see him all the time.  Case closed ... going today will be myself, my husband, my daughter, my ex, Shawn (my son), Beth (his wife) and Beth's grandma.

Such a wonderful loving family - don't ya think ? !!!!

 

Hello Sher

I hope the service brought some peace.When my exs parents both passed away,the funeral parlor does a tree lighting memorial service in Dec.They have a small service and read the name of the deceased then you walk next door to the funeral parlor and they have a large xmas tree  out in the yard and you have an orament with the persons name and you put it on the tree.Its a nice peaceful time.I hope to today went well family wise.

Linda

It was very tastefully done - something they do every quarter.  So this was for the infants, children, young adults lost between September and December of 07.  Beth (my daughter-in-law) was fine just up to the time they started the service and she broke down and left the chapel. 

The surgeon spoke to the kids prior to the Memorial service (which is why they went up earlier) and he told them that Harley truly had no chance and that if she would have had the baby tested while she was early in her pregnancy, they would have strongly suggested terminating the pregnancy.  I told her that we were lucky to have him in our lives those 3 short months and she agreed.

Linda .. thank you for being a friend :)  :)

 

Harley would have been 1 yr old today .... I'm only a grandparent and sitting here at work .. at the front desk .. is very difficult.  My mind is everywhere but on work :(

 

http://www.premierwebcreations.com/harley.htm

 

Thanks to ALL of you who were there for me through this ordeal last year.

 

 Hi Sher:  I can't believe its been a year already.  Of course you're going to be having a hard time today.  You wouldn't be human if you weren't.  You lost a grandson and I'm sure you're still grieving and going through all the different aspects of it.

Maybe remember him in a special way and plant a small plant or something --so many do something like that to honor a passing child. 

You're in my thoughts because I'm a grandmother and I can't imagine losing my grandbabies.

Love,

Linda

 

 Hey everyone .. I'm still around.  Just trying to find myself again (wait .. I'm big enough how could I have lost myself ?  gheesh!!)

Anyway ... tomorrow 12/18 will be a year since we lost Harley.  Is it normal for a grandparent to feel such a loss ???

 Sher gald you signed on  girl"been missing you".And yes its normal,he was a big part of your life even though it was for only a short time.The funeral parlor were the girls grandparents were buried from has a tree lighting service about this time.They have a small service then walk over to the funeral parlor and they have an out side xmas tree.Each name is read of loved ones from all year and you have an oramament with there name on it and you go up and put your ornament on the tree.Its a really nice ceremony.

will be thinking of you tomorrow and praying for you.

Linda

 Hi Sher, I haven't been on the board much lately, but I was scanning the topics and when I said "Harley Update" I thought there might be a message from you in here, and sure enough, there is, a sad one.  I can't believe it's been a year since Harley passed away.  They say tme heals all wounds, but it isn't true.  The sadness over the loss of my family members has never healed and never will.  I liked your comment that you were lucky you had him in your lives for those three months.  Anyway, know I'm thinking of you and completely understand how you feel, unfortunately,  I never want to lose another child or grandchild.

Judy

Hi Sher,

I figured that things have still been difficult for you after your loss. I would think that a grandparents pain can be even more intense than the parents pain. Not only are you mourning the loss of your grandchild, you are also feeling the pain that your child has to endure. It is understandable why this has been so difficult for you. I hope that you are doing things to help you get through this. It's important to know when you need help with this. Grief can be too difficult to get through on our own sometimes.

I am thinking of you and your family,

Betty Kovacs, MS, RD