I'm twenty.

I'm soon to be twenty one. And all I want for my birthday (this may) is to be thinner. So I can go dancing. And I don't want to be the fat girl dancing.

I've gotten comfortable in my relationship. I've been in it for four years. And I've gained 60 pounds! I'm currently 180lbs and only 5'1"! It's not pretty. And gosh, I use to be so cute. So all the while I never really noticed the changes, but my clothes did. I don't go out with his friends because I feel like I'm the fat girl with him. (He's nothing but wonderful to me, but thats how I feel). I haven't gone swimming in two years. And now even sex is like UGH because I'm so down on myself. I have no particular hobby but cooking and staying on the weekends. It's horrible.

I have a goal. Thirty pounds in 6 months.

I want to feel good again.

Any one want to be a buddy? - A SUPPORT buddy. Emails, and messages, and advice and motivation---all much needed!

I want to do this for me. But I want more than anything help and to help. Please, let me know!

Hi there.  I feel your pain and physically am VERY similar.  I am only 5' 0 and my beginning weight is 181.  I, too, used to be very small and petite and cute and want to look and feel good again.  I believe it carries over into every part of life.  I just started a thread called "The 155 Girls!!!" because several women were interested in a support group and have goal weights of between 145 and 155.  It doesn't matter what your goal weight is...please join us there.  We all need support.  Best wishes.

I completely understand. I am 5"1' and used to be 195. I have lost some weight (156 now), but I'm still too big for my height. Hang on to that wonderful man you have, there unfortunately arn't that many great guys in the world. Even though my boyfriend and I had been together for 7 years, he cheated on me twice with very thin girls. The second time, he married her. They are divorced now HA HA! Good luck with alli. I've been on it for a few days and I'm praying it's going to help me.

I know what you mean(198, 5'7) I used to be the hot girl myself and now I'm just that girl.I do have a wonderful husband who loves all of me,he was there before the wt gain and he;ll be there after( same for you and yours)sex does get kind of shameful for me too but he doesnt have a problem with it.I want to lose for myself because I want to look good in what I wear and not have to be pullin up my pants and pullin down my shirts forever just tryin to cover up..You hang in there and dont give up... I tell myself every day that time is going to pass anyway might as well pass with me working on losing wt instead of 6 months from know still being unhappy.. RighT? think about it... IF YOU WANT TO BE BUDDIES I'M HERE .....GOOD LUCK

There are times I am in wonder as to how that man can look at me, let alone put hands on me.  I know that we see ourselves worse than we are but YUK.  I am definetly a sex in the dark person, like hiding, when I can even get myself to do it.

My man is great about it and is always saying flattering things.  I cannot take the compliments because I just don't feel them as true.  I need to see myself the way that he does. 

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