I started the Alli diet over this past weekend and when I went grocery shopping, I bought healthy foods with low caleries and little to no fat in them. My husband loves his fatty foods and doesn't need to lose any weight, but I do. The plan was that nobody would eat my meals. Now that I'm dieting, I'm preparing meals for "myself" AND "their" meals too. (I also have a teenage son) So, now, after they have their meals, they eat mine too. Meaning, I have to cook again the next day when I didn't plan it.  I really hate to keep cooking all the time! Maybe my husband doesn't want me to lose weight becouse I feel like he's trying to sabatage me. I don't know what to do because I don't work and my husband does and my son goes to school. It's my duty to make their meals. I'm thinking maybe I should just buy some frozen lean quisine meals or something, but know they don't have alot of vitamins. I'm lost!! I feel like just having a drink!!!

 Charlene, there is help for you here.  Click the Search button at the top of the page and type in "sabotage", and it will bring up lots of posts from people who have gone through the same thing, and will let you know what worked for them.  I think the main thing is you have to let your family know that you are in charge of the meals and from now on they will all be eating healthier.  Many people here have said they have been able to incorporate healthy foods into their menus and the family didn't even know the difference.  Look at the recipes in the recipe thread.  Lean Cuisine is fine once in awhile, I do it at least once a week.  Ask your husband to please not eat his fatty favorites in front of you.  Really though, it's all about you and what you are determined to do for yourself.  I know it's tougher on those who have a family to feed, but there are a lot of success stories here, I hope yours will be one of them.  Good luck.

Judy

 My husband likes his fatty foods too.  I've learned that you can change a lot of your meals that you already cook and make them healtheir with either fat free cheese, dressing, etc.  Also, I thought red meat and pork was out, but you can find low fat, lean varieties.  I cook with light butter, olive oil, etc. My husband is enjoying (I think) the meals and not really noticing the difference.  I buy myself the snacks I want and he does get is fatty cookies.  i just don't let them tempt me.  Also, we go out to eat a couple times a week.  I can eat my low fat and he can have the huge juicy steak.

I went to the grocery store tonight and my husband called my cell phone asking for me to pick up some fried chicken and potato salad from the deli. There I was with my basket filled with good-for-me food and he wants fried chicken. It smelled delicious all the way home in the car.  I had a very delicious and healthy dinner and did not cave in to the aromas.

I am so proud I have got to the point where I didn't break open the bag and eat a piece on the way home.

Just think of which one of you will be better off in the long run......

 Amy I feel you on that one. My husband does not have a fat bone in his body and can eat whatever he wants. Although he is supportive and we do all try to eat healthy together they occasionally eat stuff in front of and I too have to make other choices. Again Like you I also get that "proud" feeling when I dont give in. It really gives me a huge "natural high" ! Nothing feels better than being in control of you.  Good-job Amanda

amybarnett:

Just think of which one of you will be better off in the long run......

 Amy, you are so right.  Take it from a woman with a critically ill husband.

I don't know why it is that many men seem to keep their teenage metabolisms longer than we do.  Sooner or later, that changes.  They catch up with us and then some.  Sometimes it's not by gaining weight.  Sometimes it's just that their bodies suddenly revolt and have massive breakdowns.  That's what serious things like cancer and massive heart attacks are about.

Garbage in ... garbage out so they say.

Do yourselves and your husbands and your children a huge favor now.  Cut back on fats.  Especially saturated fats.  Cut back on animal protien.  Add more grains, more veggies, more fiber, more water.  For everyone in the family.  Not just you.

You'll do yourself a favor in the long run by being able to enjoy each other in your retirement years and enjoy your grandchildren and great grandchildren.

Mary

 It is so sad that a husband wont support his wife on a difficult journey to better health. Maybe have a talk to him and your son, explain to them what is what you are trying to do for yourself and for them. As many people here said, you can still cook one good, low fat meal for the entire family and everyone will enjoy it. And during the evening, instead of sittining in front of the tv, invite your husband for a walk. There are so many things a couple can talk about in just a short 30 minute walk around the park.

Because your husband, (and maybe your son) arent fat, it does not mean they can eat greasy, fatty food. Arteries clog just the same, and diabetics does not distinguished between sexes and ages.

Lucky for me, my husband supports me 100%, he cooks sometimes for me and the whole family and watches my fat intake like a guard dog! And he is my partner in our cycling as we fly on our bikes several times a week.