Hi Beth!
I am married to the military as well. My husband is going remote in january and although I am getting an early start, I want to be 150 or LESS when he comes back Jan 2011. Yes... I'll be a year without him so I have to do this on my own! Having 2 small kids can really make it difficult to get in that 'me' time... but be creative! Got a double stroller? Take them on walks with you...it'll be good for all of you! Also, if you live near or on a base, many of the gyms on base offer some kind of child care for free. If not, tag team with some other moms so you can all trade off child care and gym time.
Also, consider maybe trying Weight Watchers inconjunction with Alli. I understand it is one of the best programs that works WITH Alli. Once I no longer have to cook for him I am considering doing that myself.
I am here for you... as is everyone else here! We are all in the same boat =)
I started Alli on Saturday. So far so good... I almost feel like I am not eating enough. I know that sounds weird but I bought some nuts to help make up fat grams if I fall short. I have also found that I can still eat my FAVORITE food in the world... PEANUT BUTTER!!! I make sandwiches and smoothies with it...yum!